sex & fun: 2017

mercredi 15 février 2017

24 Diagrams To Help You Have Better Sex

Understand consent, keep your penis safe, get it on while pregnant, and more.

1. For all the kisses.

2. For a basic ~pleasure~ blueprint.

Men’s Health / Via menshealth.com

These charts don’t apply to everyone, of course, but they’re interesting to look at nonetheless! See more about this at Do You Know Her Pleasure Points? via Men’s Health.

3. For when you need to love yourself first.

4. For understanding consent.

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In case there’s any confusion at all. To learn more, read What Consent Looks Like at VITAMIN W.

5. For sleeping with bae (and actually sleeping).

Cute, right? Read more about the best and worst sleep positions for couples at Swimmingly.

6. For using a condom the right way.

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Using condoms during sex is called the “barrier method” of protection. When used correctly, they’re 98% effective at preventing pregnancy (but when used incorrectly, they’re only 82% effective). Condoms can also be a good way to reduce your risk of contracting or spreading STIs. They don’t protect you against all STIs (some can be spread from skin-to-skin contact, for instance), but it’s a good place to start.

Worth noting: The best thing you can do for yourself in terms of protection against STIs: Get tested, know your status, and get treatment for any STIs that you do have. Not all are curable, but all can be treated to one degree or another. See more information about STI testing

7. For when condoms alone might not cut it.

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8. For a gentle reminder to know your status and protect yourself in multiple ways.

Guttmacher Institute / Via guttmacher.org

9. For a sexy soundtrack.

Women’s Health / Via womenshealthmag.com

10. For feeling comfortable calling the shots.

11. For knowing just where you stand.

David McCandless / Via informationisbeautiful.net

12. For getting in the mood.

Women’s Health / Via womenshealthmag.com

13. For making your room a bit more hospitable to overnight guests.

Men’s Health / Via pinterest.com

14. For getting it on during pregnancy.

Illustrations by Patrick George for Women’s Health / Via womenshealthmag.com

15. For exploring your kinky side.

Alice Mongkongllite / BuzzFeed / Via buzzfeed.com

OK, so this isn’t a chart, but it is a great primer on all things BDSM (as in: all the things that you didn’t learn from reading or watching Fifty Shades of Grey). Check it out, and ready the handcuffs!

16. For keeping your penis safe and sound.

Men’s Health / Via pinterest.com

17. For when you see a bangin’ booty and kinda wanna shout about it.

Shea Strauss for Playboy / Via playboy.com

18. For when you want a little more playfulness in your relationship.

Alice Mongkongllite for BuzzFeed / Via buzzfeed.com

19. For, ahem, improving your flexibility and opening those hips.

World Lifestyle / Via worldlifestyle.com

20. For when you might wanna give yourself a hand.

JimmyJane / Via visual.ly

Masturbation can be a totally normal part of your sex life, no matter your gender, and regardless of whether you have a partner or not.

21. For choosing the best birth control for you.

Greatist / Via greatist.com

Via Greatist. WORTH NOTING: Per the infographic, all the costs listed are before health insurance. Under the Affordable Care Act, anyone with insurance can now get many types of birth control for free,

22. For where NOT to store your condoms (lest they break!).

23. For if the condom breaks anyway.

Planned Parenthood / Via plannedparenthood.tumblr.com

From Planned Parenthood’s Tumblr post: “Note: If you’re a trans guy who takes hormones, you should talk with your doctor and see what they recommend when it comes to taking emergency contraception. Unfortunately, right now there isn’t enough research that tells us how hormonal EC will affect you, so your best choice may be the non-hormonal ParaGard IUD.“

24. For after sex is over, and you’re eyeballing that selfie stick.

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Galentine’s Day: More Than Romantic Love

Of the many commercial holidays celebrated year round, Valentine’s Day deserves a handwritten card for being the one that commemorates love, intimacy and passion. While many couples make dinner reservations or order flowers, the love we are celebrating is not reserved only for those in romantic relationships. Whether your closest loved one is your partner or friend, all intimate moments are valuable reminders of the support we give to one another.
Since 2010, women have been using February 13th to celebrate Galentine’s Day, a concept made up by Amy Poehler’s character Leslie Knope on Parks and Recreation. Groups of “gal pals” come together and celebrate friends (the other loves of your life) just before Valentine’s Day. Galentine’s Day reminds us that intimacy is not necessarily physical or romantic; it’s an unapologetic, familiar comfort with someone else. Coming together, passionate about the happiness of someone close to us, can better connect us to our own understanding of what we value and cherish. From hugging your mom to smiling at a stranger, that moment of connection taps into the same feeling. Valentine’s Day is more or less an opportunity to give tokens of love to those we love. The pressure we put on ourselves to find romantic fulfillment, especially this time of year, can make it difficult to acknowledge the platonic loves in our life. Never devalue yourself by the types of relationships you have in your life. Champion them, because when talking about love and building strong relationships, every moment of intimacy, of connectivity, is meaningful.

What is masturbation, and how do you do it?

Masturbation is when people touch their own bodies for sexual pleasure. People masturbate in lots of different ways. Touching your own body for sexual pleasure is different for everyone. How you do it depends on what makes your body feel good.
Some people may stroke or rub their penis or may use their fingers to touch themselves on or near the clitoris, the sensitive organ that is located just above the opening of the vagina. Masturbation sometimes results in orgasm; sometimes it doesn’t.
Masturbation is a good way to learn about your body and your sexual feelings without the complications that can come when you have sex or do sexual things with someone else. Masturbation can’t lead to pregnancy or cause a sexually transmitted disease (STD) either.
People of all ages masturbate—from infants to people who are much older. Some people choose not to masturbate. A lot of people believe that masturbation is a normal, healthy thing to do. You need to decide for yourself what you believe and whether or not you want to experiment with touching your own body. If so, just make sure you have some privacy.
Masturbation Myths Debunked
Myth: You’ll run out of sperm if you masturbate too much and won’t be able to have children.
Truth: Sperm are constantly being made, so you won’t run out, and there’s no need to worry about not being able to have a child in the future. In fact, sperm only make up about 1 percent of what’s in semen.
Myth: Masturbation stunts your growth.
Truth: No credible studies have shown that masturbation causes health problems, stunts your growth, causes hair to sprout on your hands, changes the way your genitals look or any of those other outrageous myths you might have heard. No one—not even your health care provider—will be able to tell if you’ve ever masturbated.
Myth: Girls don’t masturbate.
Truth: It’s absolutely true that many girls masturbate. In fact, most people do it at some point in their lives. Surveys show that 81 percent of males and 60 percent of females between the ages of 18 and 19 masturbated during the past year. That means it’s normal if you do, and it’s normal if you don’t.
For a teen girl’s take on masturbation, check out the story “Masturbation: Girls, Let’s Admit It.”